In order to describe my beliefs about therapy and the process, I first need to outline my beliefs about people in general. I whole-heartedly believe in the inherent value of all beings. I believe that there is no such thing as a bad person. I believe that all humans are fundamentally good and are deserving of love, kindness, and respect. My work as a therapist is grounded in those beliefs.
I also believe that as humans, it is our job to screw up, to get stuck, and to experience discomfort, pain, loneliness, sadness, and grief. I believe that really good people can make really bad decisions and get stuck in a pattern of problematic behaviors and thoughts. The problem exists within the behavior, thoughts, and patterns, not within the person. Those problems in no way disqualify someone from being loved, treated with kindness, and held in respect.
My therapeutic work is heavily influenced by attachment theory and the idea that people are biologically wired for connection and struggle when they are not connected. My hope is to provide a safe space to explore whatever issue is of main importance to you. I believe that all people have within themselves the ability to make the changes they desire. My job is to provide reflection, support, and encouragement throughout the journey. I firmly believe that therapy is work and that it will not be easy, but ultimately will be the best investment you have ever made in yourself.
I believe that a good therapist is very authentic and transparent with their clients. I do not like to leave a client wondering what I am thinking. I encourage clients to challenge any statement I make in session and to ask questions along the way so that they feel comfortable with the process. I encourage all clients to schedule an initial telephone or in-person interview at no charge to be sure they feel comfortable with me and the way I work. The most important factor for a successful therapeutic experience is the relationship between the therapist and client.